Self-giving of an actual condition.

All those features of display of an actual condition of the person in its external shape and behaviour which we discussed earlier, can be used also in self-giving. When we look a film or performance and we do not like game of the actor, we can characterise it so: «it here changes something, presses». What does it mean? If to ponder, it means, that, playing this or that condition (so, making the realised self-giving), the actor has overdone - has overflowed external drawing of a role with signs on the excitement, this or that experience.


And we, looking at it, do not find, that it adequately passes that occurs to it. To not skilled actors often there is the return - they obviously "underact", or as professionals speak, the "clip", consisting that external signs on experience of the actor simply are not visible and then in general it is not clear that occurs to its hero affects.


About the same we see often in own dialogue. Sometimes, wishing that the interlocutor is better us has understood, has like our experiences, we "pedal", we underline any external signs of agitation, despondency etc. It there can be and unintentionally, however it not that other as self-giving, and we count, that our partners adequately will understand our behaviour. Sometimes there is as though a negative self-giving - the person for whatever reasons tries to hide, that to it occurs, not to show outwardly the feelings. There is even an ordinary opinion as if ability to hide the feelings is very useful in a life. However it is difficult to disagree that in real dialogue it only complicates understanding others of our problems and in general does not promote successful mutual understanding. When the person is really interested in the partner and its understanding it should get rid in every possible way of such negative self-giving, and simply speaking, to behave more easy.


Thus, self-giving of an actual condition - very essential component of dialogue, to which hardly it is necessary to neglect attention.